Seduction … the very word has an enticement all of its own!
As a general rule of thumb men overplay their hand when trying to seduce women, little understanding that the gentle art of seduction is an art form in itself (and the same can be said when a woman is looking to seduce a man).
Seduction implies starting from a place of quiet confidence within oneself, without ‘trying’ to impress. You know you are a great ‘catch’, and your job is to make darned sure that your lady does too. And that means ‘chilling out’, relaxing and staying calm and collected.
You are half way to your destination if you understand the importance of complimenting the lady you are looking to seduce. But do this in a way that she is not likely to take offence at. Complimenting her on some, ‘in your view’, outstanding part of her anatomy is certainly NOT the way to proceed unless you want to be labelled a sleaseball. Keep away from the likes of boobs, bottom, legs and mouth. Time for all that soon enough. The old maxim ” slowly, slowly catch the monkey” holds true here ( no offence to the ladies intended).
Often a good place to start is with a likely perceived flaw that you think she may be sensitive to. Some of us love curly hair - some don’t - maybe going out of your way to make a special compliment about her hair is a good starting point?
Telling the lady that her smile is gorgeous, or that she looks, beautiful, divine, breathtaking or stunning is going to win you brownie points every time. Just start getting creative.
At a certain point in the conversation you need to establish physical contact. Such a physical connection will ensure you are seen in a different light, but keep the contact discreet and of course appropriate. Touch, for example gentle placement of your hand over hers, will start to get some sparks igniting. How about telling her you love the aroma around her, and then interacting by lightly grabbing her wrist to get a whiff of the perfume she is wearing? This one small act is guaranteed to win you over. And not to forget … placing your hand into the small of her back while guiding her through a crowded bar or room. Do this .. and you’ve just discovered one of her hot buttons.
When you’ve reached that time in the evening when that first kiss is appropriate, hold her in firmly and gaze deep down into her eyes. In the lead up to that first kiss eye contact is so extremely important. You will soon know if she is receptive to this advance. Don’t plough on in and slobber all over her, but rather make it oh so gentle and light. You will then soon know whether she wants more or not.
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